MY CHILD HAS ADHD
Your child’s health care provider may have told you that your child has ADHD. A lot of the time, parents figure this out before any professional tells them about it! ADHD is one of the most common disabilities. ADHD can make it very challenging to participate and learn alongside peers. it’s super-challenging to be the parent of a child with ADHD, especially if you or your child’s other parent also have ADHD! There are many excellent resources that you can read to learn more about ADHD. here are some of the resources that we commonly recommend:
CHADD. Children with ADHD
Academic medical center websites, including Massachusetts General Hospital for Children, Yale Child Study Center, and others
ADHD and impulse control
The Essential Skill of ADHD is the skill of Impulse control. Impulse control is the skill of acting before thinking. The main skill that a person with ADHD needs to build is the skill of impulse control Instead of getting distracted by something exciting or new, the child with impulse control can maintain their focus on something that might be boring or hard to do.
IMPULSE CONTROL AND THE YOUNG CHILD
Impulse control is a skill that develops with brain growth and over time. Think about how young children master the skill of impulse control. When children are 2 to 3 years old, they do not have the skill of impulse control. Whatever might be interesting catches their eye. They focus their attention on that. If you ask them to do something boring, it’s pretty likely that they won’t stay focused unless you are physically present to help them.
By the time children are 4 to 5 years old, they show some impulse control. They can make it through a boring task (such as getting dressed) and not get distracted by toys that might be lying on the floor. They can control themselves when they see a plate of delicious chocolate chip cookies on the table, and wash their hands and eat supper before they eat the cookies.
Impulse control is much more secure by the time a child enters into grade one. Their attention span is longer, and they don’t get distracted as easily. As a result, their attention span is longer. They can sit and do the hard work of grade one for 20 to 30 minutes at a time.
Impulse control continues to develop with age. We become more skilled at maintaining our focus, getting longer tasks done, we can control our impulses to eat chocolate chip cookies and stick to our diet. we can be more thoughtful and not jump into the next greatest exciting activity, but think about our options and make choices that help us in life.
IMPULSE CONTROL AND THE CHILD WITH ADHD
Many children who struggle with impulse control can show symptoms of ADHD when they are very young. At home, the child with ADHD is struggling to master rules. Instead of getting dressed and ready for school, they get distracted and start playing with their toys. In the classroom, they wiggle in their seat and want to get up and move about. They get distracted by sounds, or by something they see outside of the classroom window. Or, they focus on what their peers are doing. Their attention span is too short, and they do not get all of their work done.
If you think about it, the child with ADHD seems to function a bit like a younger child. they are still developing their impulse control, their capacity to not get distracted their capacity to maintain their focus.
I often tell parents that the ADHD symptoms/ impulsivity symptoms seem to get better . you’ll know that they have ADHD because they cannot get their work done and cannot follow classroom rules as well as their peers.
goal: improve impulse control
The key goal for the child with ADHD is to learn about impulse control. This means learning how to not get distracted so easily. You can also work on not rushing and not making careless errors.
OBJECTIVES for improving impulse control
There are many objectives that you can develop, once you understand the goal of impulse control. Here are some example situations that you can use to teach impulse control:
Familiar tasks. Daily routines at home. The child with ADHD will maintain their focus, and get tasks done at home without getting distracted. here are some ways to make sure that your child is successful at not getting distracted
Short tasks. keep the task short. a task that’s 3 to 5 minutes is a good starting point to learn how to not get distracted. Over time, increase the time interval. by grade one, a child can focus successfully for 20 to 30 minutes. Most children with ADHD will not get to this level by grade one- at least, not consistently. you may need to settle for making most of the tasks shorter. make sure the child notices that they are being successful. For examle you could say: “You did 10 minutes of work and you did not get distracted. that was a success!”
Easy tasks. Your child will maintain their focus for longer if the task that you give them is easily. An ‘easy’ task for most children is to get dressed, or to put toys away, or to help with clean-up after dinner. in the classroom, an ‘easy’ task might be putting personal items where they belong, or worksheets that are not hard for the child to do.
Supported tasks. You can help your child maintain their focus if you stay near to them. your presence will help them to maintain their focus. Over time, you can gradually pull back. For example, you can help your child start the task, and then tell them: “I’m just going to step out for a minute. You keep on with that task, I’ll be right back.’ Leave your child alone for slightly longer periods of time. Start with one minute, then build up from there. teacher check-ins in the classroom can be set up the same way.
Training. Practice one or a few of the objectives every day. total teaching time can be short- 5 minutes per task, three times per day. We’re talking marathon here, no sprinting. in fact, it’s best to teach your child to slow down. Rushing will usually not result in the best outcome.
Teaching / developing awareness. Communicate about the task and about your child’s attention span and focus. Notice when they get distracted, and then notice when they get back on track. As they get back on track, celebrate their success. You could say: “You got distracted, but now you’re focused again. Keep up the good work!” .
Teaching about careless errors. Error detection and error correction. sometimes, your child might not be distracted, but they are not carrying out all of the steps of the task successfully. they are being impulsive by rushing through the task. do your best not to provide corrective feedback right away. don’t tell them that they failed or make mistakes right away. take your time. wait until they think they have finished. then ask them to check their work. you can make them check their work
Build up your objectives
Building up. if you think your child is ready, you can take them to the next level. Here are some ‘next steps’ you can consider practicing impulse control in the following situations:
Work on impulse control while doing novel tasks— tasks that are new or that do not occur every day
Try doing Longer activities or tasks. instead of asking your child to stay focused for 5 minutes, try 7 or 8 minutes.
Give your child tasks to do that are harder- for example, that might need some problem solving skills.
spend less time being in a 1:1 setting with your child. leave them alone for short intervals, and then for longer intervals.
Communicate to the child about their successes- especially their successes, not their failures (they already know all about their failures)
Prompt them to do an error detection/ error correction procedure when needed
HOW TO TALK WITH YOUR CHILD ABOUT IMPULSE CONTROL
Your child will not make good progress if you don’t have a way of describing what they are doing to them. the most important thing you can do is notice their successes. you might find this frustrating, because they are not very successful much of the time. take a deep breath and carry on. your child will not learn very successfully if you only ever show them what they did wrong. what they really need to notice is when they are doing things right. it’s super-important to make sure that they know exactly what it feels like and looks like when they are being successful
We are going to work on being successful at focusing. Being successful means that you stay focused long enough to get your work done. Let’s see how long you can focus for work. we’ll practice this every day for 10 minutes. If we keep practicing, i bet that you’ll b focusing for longer and longer.
let’s see how many times per day you can focus for 5 minutes.
You are being successful. You kept up your focus for one minute! you kept up your focus for 5 minutes! You kept up your focus until the timer rang! good work
You are being successful. I noticed that you got distracted three times. But, each time, you re-started your task. That’s great
You are being successful. You got most of the dressing routine right. Now, can you take a look at your work and make sure you find other things that you can still get right?
You are being successful. You got the whole worksheet done. Now, take a second look at your worksheet. There’s even more things you can get right if you find them.
You are getting things right a lot of the time. i think you are getting things right more often than last week. that’s being successful.
I’m going to let you do this work on your own, but I’ll be back soon. If you can, get everything done and then check your work. I wonder how many things you’ll find that you can get right the second time around, even if you did not notice the first time around.
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